Dating over the age of 50

Dating sites?...I don't know, to me that's the worst place to meet someone in today's social climate.

People on dating sites look at you as if you're wax, some kind of a wax doll or something.

And dating sites that claim to have millions of members world wide, why?

To me that means no one is meeting anyone on there, cause I don't need a pool of millions, I just need a pool of a few that I can match with, but if people are using dating sites as hook up sites instead, to me that's useless.

I don't need to have my credit card scammed over and over again by chasing pretend women/men who either don't exist, or even if do, not interested in ever meeting.

Yes I get lonely at times, who doesn't, but dating sites?

And I cannot describe the person I want to be with in a 'few sentences', chemistry, physical and phycological, is much more complex than that.

And nor can any woman/man look at me in a photo and know whether or not we're a good match.

Sure, I could send stunning photos of self, but so what, no one is stunning all the time, not in the morning, not after work, ect.

I need someone who's willing, has the capacity, to love my unstunning, ordinary dull side. That's what I need.

I have the urge to have my own family, nature put that there, but like many women, cause I'm older, I don't nessisarily have the urge to have a wife or partner.

Like women, I'm more interested in pro-creating than I am taking care of an adult needy person (spouse).

The years of me chasing women are over, just not into that anymore, very few women that I encounter are worth me chasing anymore, and when older, and lose their fertility, there's as appealing to me as most males, which is not very much at all.

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I'll go look at a few dating sites, only cause it came up on my 'to do list', but I'm sure I'll get turned off by the 'Join for free' BS (dating sites aren't free, all you do is give them your info, for free, so they can sell it to spammers, then have to pay to go to next level)

Most American women, at least in the community or social level I'm at, aren't even into marriage anymore, so really what's the point?

I may just have to find meaning in others ways...what a nightmare, to be older, good looking, yet can't attract anyone, what a nightmare.

If a female cannot give me my own grape, then I have no reason to court them or to make them feel special, at that point, to me, they just become another human with two legs

Dating sites are so freagin dense, there's never this following category.

1. Older men/women who've yet to get married and start family of your own, meet younger men/women who are interested in starting a family with older single person'.

That's the dm category they need to run.

I mean if a male is 45, and still wants muffins of his own, than why the F would he want to meet a 51 year old woman his own age who already has grown muffins of their own?

These dating sites just assume all people who are older have already lived complete lives and are ready to head to the graveyard with a companion.

Not true.

A guy like this shouldn't be single



They're tall, handsome and fit, yet single, yet when I drive through the hood, or anywhere else, I see women with short men, fat men, men who don't bathe, even homeless men, seem to all have women.

And I mean for crying out loud, even gay men still get married and have muffins, so not even orientation seems to matter, yet if near physically perfect and have life in order, women seem to run, at least on my level of social existence.

I think what scares me about dating now, is that enibidable rejection that I know will eventually come. (or however it's spelled)

I've lived so much of my life, as an adult, alone and unpaired, as such I've had to do, creatively, whatever I had to do, to sustain self, as in theatrics, and exploring the inner boundaries of self.

Well, most women, unless specifically into the arts, theater, ect, aren't looking for some non traditional theatrical male, they just aren't.
Most women just want some meat and potatoes type of man who'll lust after them, have dinner, then go to bed and grunt.

Most women are use to their men basically being adult boys, who lack security and always need a woman to comfort them.
Well, that's nice, I suppose, if had or have that, but not everyone does, and those who don't have to become everything to self, in that nature always seeks a balance.

Again, most women just want a basic neathothral caveman type of fella, who just grunts, eats dinner, lusts after them, then goes to bed.

That's just not me, I'm way more complex than that.

Anyways, lots more to say on this issue, but right now it's late, and had a long work day, lots of driving, and gotta do it again tomorrow.

Or maybe I just think to old fashion, in that I think today, relationships are far more lose than they were when I came up.
Old school guys like me always think in stages1.
1. Date
2. falling in love
3. fiance
4. Marriage
5. Whammo.

But I think that's old fashion, and not even women think that way anymore.
I think now most women want

1. Date
2. Whammo
3. gifts
4. Whammo
5. Gifts
And marriage never even enters the picture anymore, unless you're very rich, but if just some average income guy, nah, women, many, can do better on their own in today's world, than being bothered with some older man.