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Post by Admin on Jun 22, 2021 22:19:43 GMT
Death and Dying for those over the age of 50  This is a tough subject, but feel it's one that must be dealt with for those over the age of 50, whether dealing with own demise, or the demise of others older or even younger than you, the older we all get, the less those we loved and who impacted our past are around. Let's begin this long hard, but nessisary journey.
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Post by Admin on Jun 22, 2021 22:25:18 GMT
There's probably no worse feeling in the world than getting older and then finding out one of your parents is sick and dying, it's something you know, or knew, would happen, but we just put if off in our minds, and figure maybe by then they'll have a 'cure for dying'.
But when it does finally arrive, that day or the news of, it can be emotionally devistating, assuming you have a heart and or had good or decent relations with your parents.
Although I'm sure some drool, and wait around for that inheritance, but in reality most don't get nothing at all other than memories.
There's just something eerie about losing the people who brought you into this world, knowing outside of them you'll never matter again, like you did with them, especially when younger.
It's why it helps to have a family of your own, to comfort 'you' ect, but not everyone has that, so when Mom and Dad go, there's nothing, you just become a 'number' to the world, with zero value stock to anyone, now just a presence without a past or future.
And it is stuff like this we'll discuss in up coming posts, as a form of therapy, cause learned it's best to allow feelings to bleed out over time than to hold them in until one explosive moment.
Not everyone has another to lean on, so consider this page here your friend as we go through this together.
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Post by Admin on Jun 22, 2021 22:37:03 GMT
Also, how you handle the death of one close to you or their dying, will depend on type of person or personality you have. Some people are stubborn, and don't like to ever lose, and are the types that struggle the most with some one dying close to them. And some like to 'blame', need something or someone to blame, when a loved one dies, and when you combine a violent nature or impulses with grief, it can be a volatile time for that person or those around them. I mean when gang members lose 'home boys' to street violence, they seek retrobution right away, go do a drive by or something, but most mature adults cannot respond like that and go do a drive by at a hospital to get back at Doctors ect, so most mature adults have to find other ways to cope and deal.  This is street therapy, they don't grieve, the react, but again, the majority of grief stricken adults don't do this, have jobs to go to, or families to still take care of, or value systems that go against violence, not that every now and then people don't just 'snap', cause they do and we hear about it in the news, but it's usually not over the death of a loved one, but other some work place grievance or something instead. |
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Post by Admin on Jun 22, 2021 22:41:24 GMT
'I know at my _____ funeral, if they have one, I cannot be around those who knew of their condition, yet did nothing to alert me early on, I just could not be in the same room with them or I'd snap, family or no family, to me it would be like being in the same room with monsters, so if, when, _____ passes, I'll have to have separate funeral with no one, and I mean not a soul around, or I know I'll snap and want to ____ them, that's just me'
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Post by Admin on Jun 22, 2021 23:06:56 GMT
And sometimes you may have to back away for a while, as to not allow the sick or dying person to see you 'lose it', emotionally
Sick or dying people are weak, and the last thing they need, especially if a parent, is for you to continually break down in front of them, so sometimes it's good to back away for a while, if to emotional, and come back when calm, or call again when calm.
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Post by Admin on Jun 22, 2021 23:10:26 GMT
There is no 'god' in this process with me
there is no 'god' in this process with me, I figure god didn't answer my prayers to give this person a better life years ago, so why would I turn to such a 'god' now?, it would only make me more angry, so I have divorced myself from ever implying 'god' has anything to do with the natural order of life and death, and instead just deal with it in the now'
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Post by Admin on Jun 22, 2021 23:36:26 GMT
And sometimes it may be good to just physically blow off steam! Sometimes it may be a good exercise to just physically blow off steam, as if a 'gun owner' and just going to the gun range and taking frustration out on range targets.  I mean be responsible about it of course, but sometimes people just need some physical release, and if already a responsible gun owner who hasn't been to the range in a while, maybe doing so would help relieve some built of frustration, then after, will probably feel very calm again and in control of your emotions. There is no perfect right answer here folks, just real life reflections of what people go through and think about when dealing with grief.
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Post by Admin on Jun 23, 2021 21:10:19 GMT
But the best way to find peace, to be able to live with self when Parent or any other loved one is gone, is to know you did all you could, while they were alive, to help save them, that will give you more peace than anything else
Look people, I'm going through some rough stuff right now, so not just speaking or writing just to write, writing this out is therapy to me, among other things, but this is like 'real life stuff', going on like 'right now'.
That aside, in order to find peace and to channel negative energy, never give up on loved one who is sick, know you did all you did to 'save them', let them see that as well, and that will give you more peace, and even them, than anything else in the world.
Never give up on that which you love.
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Post by Admin on Jun 24, 2021 1:22:33 GMT
Also, be weary of those who surround your love one when sick or end of life years, cause often times they're wolves in sheep's clothing!  Be weary of those who are OK with your loved one dying without exhausting all efforts to keep them alive. There's many wolves in sheep clothing that may encroach in on you and your loved on near the end, and or beginning if you rescue them.
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Post by Admin on Jan 25, 2022 21:09:18 GMT
The Lady below me Mother past away way back in October of 2021, but they just told me about it today.
Not much else to say about it. Time is no friend to people, especially the very old.
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Post by Admin on Jan 25, 2022 21:12:36 GMT
I just recently had a physical, a job related one, but it was such a general physical, heart rate, blood pressure, stretch your limbs type of stuff.
In those physicals I always appear healthy, but never feel as healthy as I appear, not to self.
One day I do know the end is coming, it can't be avoided, maybe slowed down by trying to drop unhealthy habits, but it, the end, just cannot be avoided, is why I like writing about it before it does come, as a way of rebeling ahead of time, preserving thoughts that will be around long after I'm gone.
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Post by Admin on Jan 30, 2022 3:19:15 GMT
I'm not dying, but I tell you one thing when in pain, you almost certainly wish you were, or at least you wish the pain would just die and go away.
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Post by Admin on Jan 30, 2022 6:09:31 GMT
When you're in pain or medical discomfort, it's as if god himself is trying to kill you.
And I'm the type that has no need for a hospital.
I'm the type that if cannot walk out of my place alone, than doubt I'll ever leave place again.
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Post by Admin on Feb 14, 2022 15:57:49 GMT
It just seems in the end we all get aborted by nature
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Post by Admin on Apr 19, 2022 20:55:47 GMT
Heck, we're all dying, just doing so at different speeds.
I know my eyes are slowly dying, eyesight is getting worse.
But that's no big deal, cause I can remember in Kindergarden years ago, my classmates from day one, some of them, had to wear glasses...so that fact I've made it all these years without wearing glasses, well.
That aside, it's still scary growing older without a lot of means.
At least when rich, you can pay for people to pretend they like and care for you, but when poor, if have no family, all you have one day is the streets.
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