What role does gender play as we age?

What role does gender play as we age?

What role does gender play as we age?

If married, have muffins, grandkids, that question will seem silly, cause if in a traditional family dynamic than roles are clearly defined no matter the age, whether 10 or 80, if a male and in traditional family dynamic your role is to be a male to others in your family, and same if female, you go from single to married, or (just getting pregnant now days), to being a Mother, a wife or girlfriend, then one day a grandmother ect.

You're female in all of those role and people expect you to be.

But what if 40 and single, no muffins?, not in any type of relationship, traditional or not, then what are you to self when all alone?

What do you become when gender no longer plays important factor in your life?

When home alone, cooking all by yourself, are you cooking as a male or a female?

Or are you just a life form cooking food both for pleasure and to survive.

I think people are whatever they have to be, when alone, to not feel alone and or to comfort self.
That could be different things for different people.

Some guys or gals are obscessed with always being in a relationship where there gender matters.

Many women seek out men who'll make them feel 'lady like', and guys seek out women so they can 'act manly' and play that role.

But there's a lot of people who don't desire the above and or just can't obtain it, so what do they do, or become when all alone at home or for long periods of time?

And does being gay or straight even really matter if couple doesn't plan on having muffins? or getting married?

I mean recreational 'sex' is recreational 'sex' if the intention is not to pro-create, I don't think our biological bodies know the different between male or female as far as seeking 'pleasure' goes when as far as pro-creation not involved.

I remember attending church years ago, and Pastors would make any kind of 'sex' outside of procreation seem 'bad' and 'sinful'.

So in other words, couples were not to have 'sex' together unless procreation was the intent.

(How utterly boring and drab), but that's what old time Pastors use to push, no wonder so many of those old time relationships were so drab and fell apart when couples got older.

I think the older one gets the more it comes down to just not wanting to be alone, and wanting companionship be it male or female or other.

Wanting companionship and respect from the one you're with or confide in.

There's way to many variable to discuss here but will tackle some of those variables in future posts.

Biology you can never really escape from, on the other hand 'gender roles', is a very subjective thing, just look at nature.

Possibly thinking about getting into radio again, not sure, it cost a lot, radio, when you have to pay for your own slot, isn't cheap, but, but, the reward can be grand if you market yourself properly.

Radio, unlike social media of today, actually allows you to get out to a very large audience, there is no 'blockage' or someone in the background diminishing your view count or ability to get out.

With celestial am/fm radio, whomever has their radio on hears you, period, there is no evil algorythm buring your viewpoint.

So ye, if you get a radio show, even if just for 30 minutes on the weekend, you're able to make more of an impression on people during that time, than you will have being on social media for 5 years, at least for the average person.

some have gotten lucky with social media, were able to build lots of subscribers on YT or followers on twitter, but you know what, they're useless.

Online followers or users or likes, are totally USELESS if they don't buy stuff from you!

Could give a dm about 10,000 likes or 20,000 views, if at end of day I'm still broke.

Radio is a way more effective marketing tool, where you can take 'live' calls while on air, which allows you to build a more real connection with audience.

Online relationships where you never get to hear the voice of others, is just pretty sterile and dead, when you think about it.

Anyways, we'll see.
Just got in so minds a bit shot and worn.

I don't consider myself LGBTQ or Trans, other than maybe transpersonality, but who isn't?



I just consider myself to be 'me', not trans, not gay, but rather just me.
Someone who, at times, takes more relaxed photos of self to comfort and prove to self that you can become what you want, not what others claim or need you to be for their own purpose or sense of self.

I mean this idea that only white, or light, women can be elegant, says who?
Most I see, on a daily basis, are anything but elegant.
And to be honest with you, I don't think most women, at least ones in the urban city, don't even know how to be elegant, it's something that has to be taught, but if raised on rap music, and around thug types, than of course that's what you mimic, even as a female.

Thankfully I don't come from such areas, I live around such types now, but thankfully was raised in a more cultured environment, that may sound snobby but it's true.

Most B women I see in the hood act, walk and talk all butch now, be acting and carrying on more masculine than I do...I'm not use to that, will never get used to that, it's why I think I often comfort self by externalizing what I used to think women should be like, and still are, just not in the area I'm in.
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But at the end of the day, it's just art, just a pose, a pose anyone can strike depending on ones inner sense of security and self and environment, I suppose, and of course playfulness, it helps to be a bit silly.

It's not so much being black that annoys me, or a male of color, what annoys me is all the other black males, males of color, who so insist on projecting ugliness, instead of beauty, and then I'm catigorized with such lug heads



Sorry, but beauty or projecting beauty, is not a gender specific term.
Anyone can project beauty, and nor does being beautiful, or projecting it, have anything to do with orientation, cause there are plenty of 'ugly' people who are gay/lesbian ect.

As a male, I don't want to be thought of as ugly....and if that bugs people, oh well...do you think of yourself as some ugly creature?

If my wanting to be beautiful (at least in art) offends some people, than those some people need mental evaluation.

I thimk people can be whatever they want on the inside and project that outwardly



You can be ugly to yourself and others, or you can chose to be cute to yourself and others (based on your own definition of both)

If a guy wants to look and feel cute, who am I to tell them otherwise.

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It also depends on your role, your environment and so forth.
I wouldn't expect some married guy with muffins to dress up like a fairy in front of them.
But if single and alone, then why not.
I say project out of yourself whatever you want to be...and looking cute to self is not a crime, no more than looking ugly to yourself and others is.